A re-post from an old blog, oddly up to date and accurate:
Life is one long series of choices…..itsn’t it great?! For the most part, practically from birth, we get to choose how we get from point A to point B, how we react to every situation, and by our reaction, in reality, we often set in cast the outcome, thus the future, thus, we choose our futures by our reactions, which was our choice………………..Now this is a powerful proposition, but only if you understand that you possess it, and not only that you possess it, but that you can figure out how to refine it and use it not just for your personal gratuitous satisfaction, because if I’m honest, that’s not always the best choice, but for the best long term out come in your life. WOW……I can choose how my life turns out? Yes, I believe to a great extent, if not totally, we can. I also believe that most of the bad stuff that happens to us, well it’s because of some bad choice or choices, we made, somewhere along the path, the journey, if you will…..called life. God will help you get out of your own way….believe me, I know!
Now because we all make bad choices at some point or another, no matter how hard we try not to, no one has found that perfect utopia. At least no one that I have met…..and even if I met that person, well I guess I would think…”how long can that last before it crumbles” lol….or bullshit “no one is that flipping perfect”. And if the eternal search was over, what would there be to live for? I do have a couple of friends who have with pistol point precision vision, maneuvered their lives to a point of success that they aspired to without falter. When things weren’t going the direction they aspired to, without hesitation, they were able to make those difficult choices, decisions or re-set priorities, that allowed they to move in a different direction to get where they wanted to be. When women do it, it’s like fine art in motion….crafty, sleek and beautiful…..even those women we hate for being able to stay to the path like no other,we respect…..for some reason, the lazy women who will never reach such inspiration choose to call those women bitches, because well that makes them seem less attractive to men. True or not? That’s another discussion.
When I reflect on my christian beliefs and what I have learned in my life studies as what I choose to believe as my struggle to live a spiritual life, it sums up to one thing, and that one thing is what I always, always tell my boys…..you have to know what you want, and then you just have to get your priorities straight if you want to get on the right path. Some people simply accept the right now as their reality and see no way out of it. That’s just lazy. Sometimes it’s hard to change your life or attain a big goal…..didn’t say it would be easy. I just said, I believe we can achieve most things in life, simply by getting our priorities straight. Making the “choice” to turn down a certain path, make the correct decision, then once that decision has been made, figure out the priorities necessary to get to the goal line.
Here’s a clue…if nothing changes, nothing changes….if you’re not happy with how much money you make, don’t tell me you didn’t go to college, that I don’t understand. That’s such garbage. My mother didn’t have money for me to go to college either, but I figured it out. I have friends who married young and then decided to go back later to find a career after having kids. And hey, it took 8 years of night school to get their BA, but they did it! It was hard, it took sacrifices, but they kept their eye on the prize, set their priorities, exercised patient (a key ingredient to the process). And now two such friends, are working their way up the corporate ladder, and both make more money than her husbands.
Now after all the diatribe, I must admit, I am struggling myself at this time, to get my priorities where they need to be. Mine is not a goal to attain riches and treasures. Mine is more a goal to be the kind of person I want to be. God…..Family….Community…..what can I say, it’s a work in progress. I won’t say I am trying, because it’s more than that! I am acting daily on my desire. But it’s not a perfect plan, and I fall off the path and it’s really hard when being on the right path and keeping your priorities straight, means cutting someone you care about out of your life……………………that’s the worst! For now, this moment, one down………….still not sure it’s the right thing. BUT, negative energy breeds more negative energy………..
So tomorrow, you get up, think about your goals, what you can do today to keep moving forward…..working towards being the person you want to be. I guess I just feel lucky that I at least know that the choices are mine, that I can look in the mirror, and what I see is hopefully who I want to be.